“My Things”

So, part of healing… is confronting something and admitting how it effects our life.

My brother recently made a comment to me about how I always have a new “thing”. My response to his comment was “shut up!”, but it did get me thinking and had to talk it over with my wife. We all have ‘things’ we do that are ours and do as a hobby or for fun.  I thought it would be therapeutic to list out all the ‘things’ I’ve had over the years, cause I might have a lot of them.

This might hurt, but here we go.

Turtle, ferret, drawing, mountain biking, rollerblading, long boarding, photography, guitar, working out, aquarium, snowboarding, gardening, website, motorcycle, quads…

Man, I feel like there’s more…

rand2I guess I could count.

School, Counseling, Faith/Religion… Do I have to put blogging?

This is what I have for now, but I may have missed something. If I can think of more, I’ll add it to the post at a later point. I don’t know if I feel better about having so many ‘things’, but at least it’s out in the open and I can now start thinking now this plays a role in my life.

“My Things”

DSM-5 Typo: Pedophilia Described as ‘Sexual Orientation’

So, I heard this on the radio today. The basics of the story is that the DSM manual is the diagnostic and statistical manual for mental disorders. It is what many professions in the psychology field use to help diagnostic and treat their patients. It was created by the American Psychiatric Association and it comes out once every 10 years. It’s used as the authority over all mental disorders.

Today I heard that a group of people went through the manual once it was released this year and found (along with other things) that Pedophilia is described as a sexual orientation. If you are unsure what that means, the easiest way to understand it is an example. I’m a heterosexual male meaning my sexual preference is women. It was the way I was born. Heterosexual is the most common. Now, people claim they are homosexual, meaning they are sexually attached to the same sex, and many claim they are born this way too.

The way the DSM manually currently has Pedophilia in their manual, is that it is an orientation, it was the way they were born. They are sexually attached to children and it is the way they are made.

Now, why is this an issue?
Well, first, when this was brought up to the APA, they said it was a mistype… They claim it should have said “sexual interest”. In my opinion, this still does not fix the issue and they had 10 years to write and revise this manual. Why are their typos and where are the others?

A sexual orientation is something we group people into, but it is something we cannot discriminate against. For example, it’s against the law for someone not to hire someone based on sexual orientation. If they are gay, you cannot not hire them because of that. If pedophilia is an orientation, someone would not have the right to not hire that person because they are a pedophile. That means, schools, day cares… could all have known pedophiles working for them…

I’ve also heard that this has already been tried to be used in courts because when a different couple of people were charged for pedophile reasons, they claimed they were not guilty ‘because that was the way they were born, they can’t help it.” The APA DSM manual only backs up this claim and it is the leading diagnosis manual we have for mental disorders. How well will that play out in court.

To me, pedophilia is a disease of the mind and it should be treated as such. Make sure to let the person know they are not a bad person to have these feeling, but they should never get to a point where they are acted on. This is not the norm, therefore, it is abnormal. We never see adult-child sexual relationships and when we do, we consider it a crime, not just a harmless orientation. People with pedophilia need on-going treatment.

I’m encourage to speak about about this because if we don’t, the diagnosis will just sit in this written manual for the 10 years, everyone thinking it is truth, when it’s not. An example similar to this is when Aspergers was added to the manual and then we had an explosion of people that were diagnosed with Aspergers. The same thing happened to Bi-Polar and now everyone and their mom has Bi-Polar. What would happen if pedophilia becomes normal?

DSM-5 Typo: Pedophilia Described as ‘Sexual Orientation’

The Science of Stage Fright

So I can’t remember if I have let you all know I’m crazy into psychology. Learning about the mind is challenging and so rewarding all at the same time. I feel if I have a small understanding of the mind, somehow it will better myself.
This video was a great depiction of stage fright. If you understand it, maybe you can conquer it.